There’s nothing wrong with goals and resolutions, but it seems for many people that inherent in both is pointing out where one has failed. The most common resolutions are to lose weight and exercise more, presumably because you weigh too much and exercise too little.
Both of those resolutions come from a place of failure, what you didn’t do, what you failed to accomplish over the past year or years. When clients want to talk about resolutions, they want to recount, in great detail, how they have failed themselves.
I flip that discussion over and say let’s celebrate what you did accomplish. Success leads to more success, and it can begin from seemingly small tasks well done. I suggest to my clients we build upon what has already been accomplished. It may seem only a matter of semantics, but those words become powerful thoughts, and then actions.
If someone wants to initiate a new behavior, I prefer the word “intention.” It is often used in yoga and with good reason. Intentions are seeds that grow towards the light, they flourish under positive thoughts, not by belittling yourself into behavioral change.
So, before you set your 2016 New Years intentions, celebrate your accomplishments, what you did right throughout 2015 and build from that point of success.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!